The room has already determined how it feels about you even before you utter your first word. Studies substantiate this by proving that nonverbal communication has four times the force as any spoken words. The loudest men are not the most positive ones, they have perfected that language that the body can speak even before the mouth opens. It is as follows as to how to pronounce it.
The Ear-Shoulder Gap
It is confidence baseline, the distance between your ear and your shoulder as referred to by FBI agent Joe Navarro. It seems that the second you crunch perceived status. Always increase that difference and see how people are quick to re-adjust on how they treat you.
Hold Your Eye Contact
Assertive individuals look at each other 60-70 percent of the time of a conversation not a stare, but a constant contact. Looking aside is always an indication of unease. Rather on the look tells you that you have nothing to hide and have nowhere to go.
Slow Everything Down
Speeding down your actions indicates status. Verdictory movements and fast nodding speak of panic. The man who paces slowly, takes time with his words, and sits in a room unmistakably when he has nothing to offer, is perceived as the most influential individual.
Stay Open Always
Open body language, uncrossed arms, visible palm, chest front– high dominance and persuasiveness is associated with open body language. The instant that you clasp your arms you indicate defense. The act of remaining receptive conveys the attitude that you are the owner of the room and you are also well aware of it.
The Three-Second Handshake
Direct Gaze A handshake may be viewed as extremely rude, yet it directs the attention of the possible communication participant, making the whole difference within three seconds. It is your opening statement, which behavioral scientists affirm. Make it count once and once only.
Lengthen Your Stride
The appearance of six to eight inch longer stride than the normal generates actual sense of power even before you reach there. Walk as though you are confident in the direction you are heading at a point of knowing it well even as you are only making some figures of it out.
Keep Your Hands Visible
A study conducted by researcher Vanessa Van Edwards revealed that visual hands are an indicator of trustworthiness and intelligence. Unconscious hiding of hands is an indication of concealment. Have them open, comfortable and free. This shift alone will turn the reading of your confidence in every room.
Sit Beside Not Across
The person will indicate that one is cooperating rather than competing by sitting beside a person rather than across a table. Strategic positioning influences the perception of power that one has in the eyes of the others even before uttering a single word. The position where you are is a non-verbal signal of what you are.
Master the Pause
The least significant confidence cue is the silent pause. Don’t rush to fill silence. Two seconds to reply are indications that your reply is worth the wait. Soothing silence, that which is dealt with, is power in its purest kind.
Fake It to Make It
Harvard study affirms that two minutes in a confident posture raises testosterone with a significant decrease in cortisol. There is no need to feel confident at the beginning. Strauss, chest up, make a space–your body persuades the brain to enlarge your size.
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